Relation Advice

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#1

Guys i need your help !!! I know it’s a bit stupid but i have to ask a
piece of advice from you . i’ve already asked my friends but i want to know what
would you do if you were me

Six damned months i like a girl . Two weeks ago , i walk almost 3 kilometres with snow from my house to her house . So i asked her to have a relasion , i hope you understand what i mean , and so she told me that she will answer the next day . I told her ok and left . so the next day she told me no .

the point is that i now fall hard and i don’t know what to do .
so i want your advice .

#2

Well the advice we can give will not make you feel any better, but having been in your situation, as I’m sure most of us have, the only thing I can suggest is, you move on. You accept that there is no future in a relationship with this girl, and that you carry on with your life, and I’m sure that eventually you will meet a girl who does want a relationship with you.

#3

thanks redcoat .i try follow your advice . i am sure you are right . and i hope what you told me last happen someday soon

#4

If you like the girl beyond sex, continue to court her.

Just because she doesn’t want to root you now doesn’t mean the relationship has no future.

You really need to ask yourself if you want the girl because you like her or just for sex. If it’s because you like her, keep going.

And brush up on your courting technique. A shag is something that evolves in the moment, not something that is requested one day and an answer given the next, and a date booked ahead. (Unless you’re married, in which case you need to book well ahead; the answer is usually no; and even if it’s not there aren’t any spaces in a busy calendar of shopping, being exhausted from putting frozen food into the microwave, and having headaches. :wink: )

If all you want is sex, leave the poor girl alone and get a prostitute. It’ll be quicker, cheaper and you’re guaranteed a good time. Plus you don’t have to say you love them, send flowers, or marry them if you get them pregnant. Or deal with their fathers.

#5

all right but i think . you are wrong on a point of course . I am only 16 so i am not married . And about the sex thing you mensioned i don’t even think about it .
i dont know if i can say this but i think i love her . first time i feel something so strong and so i say that , yes i love her

#6

If all you want is sex, leave the poor girl alone and get a prostitute. It’ll be quicker, cheaper and you’re guaranteed a good time. Plus you don’t have to say you love them, send flowers, or marry them if you get them pregnant. Or deal with their fathers.

Quite an advice for the kid man, congratulations :slight_smile:
The things that migh suit you well maybe are not the best choice for Others RS.

And I repeat if somebody need help for its personal life it will not be find in a Military related Topic.

#7

Yes PK you are right but i just wanted an advice .
Now please tell haven’t you been involved in a situation like that ?

#8

I do, but I dont going to discuss that in here.:rolleyes:

#9

Then Maybe You Want To Sent Me Your Advice To My Pm . And How Old Are You ? If You Want

#10

And where did he reveal his age before I answered? Or do I lack you perspicacity?

And what is wrong with my advice, anyway?

The things that migh suit you well maybe are not the best choice for Others RS.

Nice shot, PK.

If it wasn’t the season of goodwill towards all men, including you, I’d respond.

And I repeat if somebody need help for its personal life it will not be find in a Military related Topic.

Bugger me! I thought this was Off Topic General.

I commend you for using your first sentence to criticise my post about someone else’s personal issue and your last for saying that nobody should be discussing such things here. It is entirely consistent with your legendary lack of consistency.

Merry Christmas!

#11

Everyone’s like that at the age of 16 - it’s traditional. Chill out and carry on with life and you’ll be fine. Seriously, nothing is ever as serious as it feels when you’re that age.

#12

Dunno about that.

I had some serious feels at that age.

The most memorable one was when I wasn’t alone. :smiley:

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#13

Ok guys but calm down . I mean you RS . PK thinks what i did wrong but you think it is right . It is your choise . I though that everyone could say what he thinks . And i thank you all about everything you posted . I really appreciate that .

Thank you all

#14

Hold on! Wait for the next snow… probably you meet the “YES”.

I belive in snow, but never i’ve been so heroic!!!

Good luck!

#15

From your original post I understood it to mean that you were dating the girl for 6 months, and walked three miles through the snow and asked her for RELATIONS… LOL

but upon further reading It sounds more like you just were interested in her for six months then walked three miles through the snow to ask her for a RELATIONSHIP… :slight_smile:

If it’s case #1, most girls won’t go for that, or at least want to APPEAR like they won’t go for that anyway. lol… the ones that will usually have something for you that bleach won’t clean off…

Case #2, what you did was sweet, if she didn’t go for it, she didn’t go for it what can be said but “her loss”? At least she had to think about it and didn’t flat out say no and slam the door in your face right? I agree with the advice to move on and try another girl when you are ready. Living in military housing I have seen an AWFUL lot of people who married the girl they liked when they were sixteen and to be honest, I have yet to meet one that will tell you he is happy unless the wife is right there in his face telling him to. You are young enjoy the shopping around for a while and don’t let one no get you down.